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Ray Lan 2.0's avatar

Enjoyed the read. Intrigued what classifies as utilise acronym term "TERF" to blanket wash organisations, what were they up to ?

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

blanket wash? orgs that came out of the trans debate and concern themselves primarily with issues ensuing from that

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Ray Lan 2.0's avatar

R , blanket wash i.e (that is) tar everyone with the same brush. Acronyns obsurce meaning, dilute language & its intent. } Looking for notebook... Got it in my notebook from my vountering with a County Council, in 2018.

Acronyms such as Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist, blanket wash a marginalised community for example lesbian women, rights of women & girls. It excludes our point of access It silences it states you're this, therefore silences a marginalised community, you're marginalised & cannot speak.

Like imagine, silencing an already marginalised group, taking away their spaces their point of being. I'm assuming from some of your writing, which is nice to hear your thoughts in general, I recall you wrote something in common with a friend that you're both heterosexual? ... I once had something in common with someone we both had green eyes anyway...Imagine not being able to speak. Imagine every time you accessed online dating or interpersonal relations it being a women who sees themselves as a man. How would you feel? Imagine if you were tricked & it came to the "act" - that's what lesbian women are going through. Restless last night... Debating whether to liaise with ... unsure if winking is appropriate in the work place. How would you feel if a woman(reverse) in the workplace winked at you in a luring manner when trying to raise a serious concern? Not just "you" I don't mean this to be directional or projectional by this how would people feel, if they were attacked, psychological & physically in a workplace? Fundamental health compents were ignored, how would you feel if you spoke to various union members who had zero compassion & ignored, after being physically assaulted? Then you're only choice left someone who acknowledged your concerns of lesbianphobia, was to speak to someone a trans women who winked at you, when you've got gynologigical concerns, when you've survived "ape etc would it be appropriate to plaster TERF all over the internet? How would you feel if your black & someone insisted on painting their face black when they aye.ppl should think before they speak.

TERF is not a cool buzz word.It harms lives. It compromises safety. Be yourself, be trans. Provocation of a same sex attracted person ?

We stood for the marriage equality act. This is the law, this isn't England, we will be British England again. Safety is an integral & should always be a basic human right. So no it's not "organisation that concern themselves with that" Dykes die too.

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Lucian Lawson-Foley's avatar

A very fun read lol especially the Sam Taylor Johnson bit 🤣

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

thank you !

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Fem's avatar

Is blonder better?

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

not for me it isn’t, but it ads to the picture, and can be perceived as such by a competitor

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Fem's avatar

ahhh mind games

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

we love them

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Andy Clossick's avatar

I must disagree with your comment that you wouldn’t have to work so hard if you were prettier, you are more attractive than traditionally pretty girls and definitely sexier! I loved the Zoomer section, interesting and funny, keep those sort of diary stories coming.

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DJ's avatar

I’m old enough to be your father but I still remember what it’s like to be a young and dumb 20 yo. This was fun.

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

he is not dumb I promise

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David's avatar

Good stuff. It would be nice to hang out with you and have your stories be of me and my silly thoughts on the world. If only we could all agree that Sammie Smith's nut brown is the best! the world would be a much better place. Asahi is something I will have to try. I have had many barley pops but never that one.

Have a great day and better week!

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

hahaha I am glad you admit what most people don’t, people like being written about

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David's avatar

The point of my desire is time spent being enamored by you. Writing about it would be insignificant to me comparatively.

I have come to realise that you remind me of an unrequited love from my highschool days. But any thoughts of sublimation are extinguished by your fire and prose.

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Paul halloran's avatar

Another goodie !

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Stella Tsantekidou's avatar

thanks

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