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As a Greek (older?) woman who has lived in the UK for donkey's years before venturing to warmer climes, I want to say that I love your writing, lovely lady! Keep shining and sparkling and I hope you will get to enjoy the ride as much as I did :))

Anyone who quotes a Kevin Spacey film is ace in my books xxx

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Awww thank you Antigoni !!!! Very nice to connect with a fellow Greek on here 😌

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As long as it involves consenting adults age gaps are fine. Though for me anything beyond say 10 to 15 years difference is gross.

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I agree. Perfectly legal and within 10-15 years, not even weird, especially if both people are above, say, 24/25 years old, so fully developed frontal lobes, but beyond that I can still find it personally unappealing.

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Agree for me too great a age difference most often can introduce a unconscious parent child dynamic. For me , I'm 49, if single , won't want to be in a relationship with either a woman old enough to be my mother or young enough to be my daughter. No thanks

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Another entertaining and enlightening take on relationships. I liked your distinction between older men who are inappropriate with younger women and older men who like women and treat them chivalrously especially when they are much younger.

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Thank you David! My conviction is: We can have nice things! We don't have to hide away from the world, mixing around is beneficial across the board when done with care. I have benefitted a lot from hanging out with some older men in a platonic, non-threatening way because it meant I learnt to communicate with a very different demographic.

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When I was learning Latin dancing my teacher said that the difference between being in the dance with the woman and sleaze, was millimetre perfect.

Stella I love your descriptions of people and places. And your confidence in it. Kala Christouyenna

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Your writing is almost poetry!

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Thank you Stella, that is a very honest and entertaining piece. Of course men want younger ladies and vice versa for the appearance and energy, especially sexual energy, as you mentioned. It’s human nature, the way we were made. Big age gaps, over 10 years, can be problematic in later years however appealing they are at the time, but obviously they can work. I think you will find a man maybe up to 5 or 6 years older with the youthful vigour and the maturity, without having to try too hard ❤️

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You wrote two things that really resonated with this old(er) cis man; “… for looks, brains and humour. Most men score in the 5-6 mark- heterosexuality is cruel like that.” and your observation that men who paw all over women in public actually hate women.

I’ve never understood how men (they’e emotionally boys, actually) think the latter is okay. I always took it as disrespectful of their partner. You helped me see that it is worse than that. Thank you.

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>"there is a 99% chance in my autumn years, I will be greedily plucking green berries off bushes before their spring."

May you live a long and prosperous life so you may spend ample time plucking these green berries to your content. 😁

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The gaps between age-dyssynchronous men and women mean they are from different worlds, even if they're from the same country or even party. More than just language is lost in translation.

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yes, they are definitely harder relationships in many ways, coming from different generations means living in different worlds

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