Thanks for another entertaining and thought provoking read Stella, and your honesty with intimate recollections is rare and much appreciated, and necessary to fully understand your feelings. Enjoy your break to the full, and get all the experiences possible, you’ll have plenty of time to write later x
"One piece of bad bitch dating advice I have to give is never tell men other men have not treated you well. They value you less after that, no matter what they say. Men want what other men want."
I think it's less the case that men value you less after finding out other men treated you bad, but that whatever made other men not value you more soon manifest in your current relationship.
I am not without empathy for this predicament though, what do you do when you just don't feel strong enough feelings or are conditioned to be non-commital
Why should they commit when they have a 'buffet of women'. Like everything else romance is a commodity now with its very own language 'swipe left' 'swipe right' 'i can see you on wednesdays'' 'delete' sorry, who is this?'...tant pis, the population will never recover to replacement level ever again. Sorry you weren't 20 in the 80s...
I am not sure I would want to be 20 in the 80s though, the 90s were a brutal time to be a woman, each generation has its struggles. Many men who are boring and unambitious are bitter they are not being picked by women because women now can have their own career and interests and options.
Very entertaining read, again. IMO, If a man values a woman less because she's been hurt by someone, there's something wrong with him. That's a big ass red flag.
Thanks for another entertaining and thought provoking read Stella, and your honesty with intimate recollections is rare and much appreciated, and necessary to fully understand your feelings. Enjoy your break to the full, and get all the experiences possible, you’ll have plenty of time to write later x
thank you Andy, NYC is lush so far
"One piece of bad bitch dating advice I have to give is never tell men other men have not treated you well. They value you less after that, no matter what they say. Men want what other men want."
I think it's less the case that men value you less after finding out other men treated you bad, but that whatever made other men not value you more soon manifest in your current relationship.
I see what you did there Charlatan!!!!! Thanks for confirming I am inherently unloveable, as i had long suspected!!!!
Sensationally fun writing as ever Stella. You'll end up a contemporary Eve Babitz at this rate
thank you James :-) I love Babitz
"He is haunted by the pain he’s caused them".
That's because what he is doing is a grievous sin. He should stop.
I am not without empathy for this predicament though, what do you do when you just don't feel strong enough feelings or are conditioned to be non-commital
Why should they commit when they have a 'buffet of women'. Like everything else romance is a commodity now with its very own language 'swipe left' 'swipe right' 'i can see you on wednesdays'' 'delete' sorry, who is this?'...tant pis, the population will never recover to replacement level ever again. Sorry you weren't 20 in the 80s...
I am not sure I would want to be 20 in the 80s though, the 90s were a brutal time to be a woman, each generation has its struggles. Many men who are boring and unambitious are bitter they are not being picked by women because women now can have their own career and interests and options.
Very entertaining read, again. IMO, If a man values a woman less because she's been hurt by someone, there's something wrong with him. That's a big ass red flag.
Dull men. Hmm.
Sorry but some are, they can date the dull women. I'd rather die alone than not fall in love.
No need to apologize. I love your writing.
This was very illuminating. Thank you.
thanks for reading Bas !