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Tove K's avatar

I find your description of the woes of beautiful young women spot-on. To the degree that I wonder why so many young women invest so much in making themselves beautiful. Every woman who succeeds in becoming a first-class beauty, will attract a number of men who are after a first-class beauty. Are those men really the most attractive long-term partners? Already when I was young I doubted that, and did not invest very much in my looks. That weeded out at least some of those men who would otherwise later discover that they abhorred my personality.

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Doctor Hammer's avatar

Very good essay. The insights into the female side of the loneliness divide I think are very important, as those on the male side tend to speak as though every woman is turning down men left and right. I can’t help but think that many men who can’t get a date are in part setting their sights way too high, not bothering unless they can get a woman well outside their league. Many women are great, possibly better overall than the top tier beauties, but languishing because men are too focused on failure and giving up on dating entirely.

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